Chapter 35 The Oedipus Complex
"Xiao Mo, it's wrong for you to do this."

"I'm already 40 years old, and you're only 18 now. I can be your mother. With such a big age gap, you really shouldn't have such thoughts."

Chen Weining had the expression of an elder advising a younger person, hoping to help him change his wrong ideas.

It was only Shen Mo who was worthy of her doing this. If it were any other man, he would have been left aside long ago.

Even Li Zihao, whom I have seen grow up, did not receive such treatment.

The main thing is that this boy looked very cute when he was young, but when he grew up, the look in his eyes when he looked at her was secretly lustful, and he immediately became a passerby.

Shen Mo did not back down at all, "But, Sister Ning."

"There are many wealthy men in their forties who still look for young girls. The age difference between them is more than 20 years."

"This kind of social phenomenon is very common in ancient and modern times, both in China and abroad. Why can they like you but I can't?"

Shen Mo's words made Chen Weining silent for a moment.

This kid is not an easy person to deal with.

After thinking about it, she decided to find another way.

“Xiao Mo, have you ever heard of the term Oedipus complex?
Seeing that the social phenomenon did not make sense, she decided to approach it from a psychological perspective.

"I know this."

When he used the study cards a few days ago, he had read this knowledge in the medical book.

"The word comes from the Greek myth Oedipus Rex."

"The protagonist Oedipus, due to various misunderstandings, committed the great crime of patricide and murder."

Shen Mo's words made Chen Weining's cheeks slightly hot.

Although she grew up in a trend-setting city like Shanghai, she is still a conservative and traditional woman at heart.

It's hard not to feel shy when hearing such explicit words.

"Freud later used this allusion in his theory of the stages of psychosexual development, namely the Oedipus complex."

"Later, this word was used to refer to admiration or love that transcends age restrictions."

This kid is indeed a little different.

A hint of appreciation flashed in Chen Weining's eyes.

He seems to be knowledgeable and has his own ideas.

The most important thing is that when faced with his own preaching, he did not back down at all, but instead discussed with himself rationally and with evidence.

I just mentioned it casually, but he explained the origin and psychological usage of the Oedipus complex in great detail.

Children like this are rare.

And Shen Mo continued to talk.

"China is still relatively traditional in this regard, and can even be said to regard it as a scourge."

"Some people even keep it a secret, thinking it is a shame or a sin, and end up being mentally deformed because of the suppression."

"But psychology has long pointed out that this is actually a normal psychological phenomenon in the process of human growth."

"Even homosexuality has been recognized and accepted, so liking mature women is not something wrong."

"I don't think it's a mistake to fall in love with you."

Shen Mo's words made Chen Weining feel a little shaken.

She looked at the eighteen-year-old boy in front of her and found him more and more interesting.

His frankness and his extensive knowledge and memory seemed to add a radiance to his handsome face.

And it seems that there is nothing wrong with what he said.

I am a woman who has been divorced for many years. I am free both morally and legally. Although Shen Mo is only 18 years old, he is already an adult.

Love between men and women is normal.

She suddenly felt her heart beating faster.

Could it be that I was thinking wrongly?

wrong!

Chen Weining bit her lip, her eyes blinking as she looked at Shen Mo with a faint smile on her face.

I was almost led astray by this kid.

She thought about it and continued to persuade. "Xiao Mo, there is a question that you have not thought about."

"Even if we are together, it's OK for a short time. But what about five or even ten years later? I will be fifty years old, and you will only be twenty-eight."

"When the time comes, we will have to separate, which will be a huge harm to you and me."

She still felt that he should find a girl of similar age.

"Sister Ning, what you said is indeed reality."

There are certain techniques to Shen Mo's answer. First, affirm the other party to avoid creating the stereotype of being argumentative.

Of course, the key point still comes back to "but".

“But what’s important in life is not the results.”

"It's a process. Every moment we live is a process."

“No one knows what will happen in the future. Instead of worrying too much about distant results, why not live in the present?”

Chen Weining felt a little dizzy.

This guy, for every word you say, he can reply with two or three words.

I clearly wanted to help him correct his wrong ideas, but instead I got lectured.

But if you think about it carefully, what he said does make sense.

Ever since my husband cheated on me and divorced me, I have been living single for all these years. Have I really been happy during this process?

Have I missed something over the years?
Shen Mo continued to strike while the iron was hot.

"Sister Ning, can I tell you a historical story?"

Chen Weining's eyes lit up. Talking about social phenomena and psychology alone was indeed a bit boring.

Everyone likes to listen to stories.

"Do you know Emperor Xianzong of the Ming Dynasty?"

"Well, I've heard a little bit about him. He seems to be a tyrant."

Although Chen Weining likes to read books, she doesn't know much about the history of the Ming Dynasty.

"Does it mean that he favored eunuchs, appointed treacherous ministers, set up the Western Factory to rule, and favored Concubine Wan, who was 17 years older than him?" Shen Mo asked.

"Well, that's pretty much it."

She nodded slightly. Shen Mo's explanation was quite comprehensive.

After all, whenever movies and TV dramas mention the Chenghua period, it’s always about “eunuchs running rampant and people living in misery.”

"In fact, the temple name Xian means erudite and versatile, which in itself shows that this emperor had great achievements."

"The Ming Dynasty, which was taken over by Emperor Xianzong, had just suffered a disastrous defeat at Tumu Fortress. The country was in decline and could be said to be a mess."

"But after he succeeded to the throne, he secured Jingxiang and Guangdong, and pacified the borders. He had the military prowess of sweeping the country, and to a certain extent, he can be said to be the ruler of the revival of the country."

"As an emperor, he was deeply in love with Concubine Wan, who was 17 years older than him, and he didn't care even if he was slandered by literati. After Concubine Wan died, he died of illness soon after."

Shen Mo spoke slowly while recalling and choosing his words.

But Chen Weining was also listening attentively.

Information in those days was not as developed as it is later, and the emperors of the Ming Dynasty, especially Emperor Xianzong of the Ming Dynasty, were generally portrayed as incompetent.

Shen Mo's story was refreshing to her.

The love between the emperor and Concubine Wan, who did not seek to be born in the same year but to die in the same year, also made her sigh.

"Sister Ning, even people in ancient times didn't care about age, so why can't we modern people accept it?"

Chen Weining looked at Shen Mo, and a glimmer of light finally flashed in her eyes.

The child in front of me talked about it in a series of ways, from the perspectives of social phenomena, psychology, history, etc.

Although he was very young, he was not at all nervous when facing himself. Instead, he was neither humble nor arrogant, and his speech was logical, clear and well-reasoned.

It is really extraordinary for an eighteen-year-old to be able to do this.

Looking at the handsome young man in the prime of his life in front of her, a trace of confusion flashed across Chen Weining's beautiful eyes.

She suddenly felt a small crack appear in her long-sealed heart.

(End of this chapter)